Knowing before knowing

Knowing Before Knowing

When I started my coaching journey, I didn't really know what to expect.

It was more of a sense. A stirring. Something was up and I couldn't quite name it yet.

I had worked most of my professional life in IT—starting on the business side and growing into different roles over the years. And through all of it, I always had this quiet feeling that something was missing.

I knew it.

But honestly, I never acted, because I didn't know what to do with that sense.

And I never asked for help.

I mean—who could have answered what was missing, when I didn't even have the question yet?

Then the time came when I slowed down.

Still without answers.

But something was finding its way up.

Slowly.

Not with pressure.

Just... making itself known.

That's when I found coaching.

And somehow, in that moment, I knew.

I signed up.

The journey started.

And it will always continue.

What happened since?

A lot.

The short version:

I now do what I love.

Coaching is surprisingly difficult to explain to someone who hasn't experienced it.

It's not advice.

It's not therapy.

It's not someone telling you what to do.

It's a space where you get to think out loud—without judgement, without someone else's agenda.

A space where questions you didn't know you had begin to surface.

Where something that felt stuck starts to move.

It can help when you're in the middle of a decision and can't find clarity.

When something feels off but you can't quite name it.

When you know you want something different but don't know where to begin.

Or simply when life feels noisy and you would like the space to hear yourself again.

It isn't about having someone else's answers.

It's about creating the space to discover your own.

Today, coaching has become one of the most meaningful parts of my work.

Every conversation is different because every person brings a different story, a different perspective and a different way of making decisions.

Over the years, I've noticed that these moments come up more often than we might think. Not only when changing jobs, but in many moments of life. We wonder whether we're following our own reasons or someone else's expectations.

Sometimes we don't begin with an answer.

Sometimes we begin with a quiet sense that something wants to change.

Looking back, I'm grateful I chose to listen.